tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post5360417452251187284..comments2024-01-08T02:13:14.526-05:00Comments on Darby: Fly Through My Window: Hydracodone + Blogging=...Justin & Darby Sticklerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05275149473225580795noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-82107301476901205582008-07-23T21:35:00.000-05:002008-07-23T21:35:00.000-05:00I think she actually pegged me in the leg with tha...I think she actually pegged me in the leg with that pizza slice!<BR/>-Darby's loving hubandAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-1099801678760732622008-07-22T08:45:00.000-05:002008-07-22T08:45:00.000-05:00I rarely write about Jeremiah and my fights, but h...I rarely write about Jeremiah and my fights, but he still feels like I make him look bad in every blog :) Just last night he said, "Abby, if I read your blog and I didn't know our family, I would hate me." Its funny, because I feel like I am always trying to make him look good...go figure!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your honesty. I heard Justin tell Jeremiah one time, that he hated himself because you never got mad and said hurtful things to him, and he was always saying things that hurt your feelings. I have felt bad about myself ever since :) So, I am glad to know you have thrown an occasional piece of pizza on the floor...I've kicked a dent in our trash can :)<BR/><BR/>I also appreciate your comments about our vast knowledge in areas besides politics...you are so right!Abby Maddoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06951393268311759695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-80331386712200252192008-07-22T08:14:00.000-05:002008-07-22T08:14:00.000-05:00Darby,I think there are just some things that you ...Darby,<BR/>I think there are just some things that you can't understand unless you are a stay at home mom. It is SO much harder than I ever imagined it to be. But I do love it at the same time. I get frusturated because I feel like my hubby works 8-9 hrs a day, then he is "off." When does my shift end? Half of the work I need to get done around the house I can't do until the toddler goes down at 8pm. My husband is very happy to do things for her when I ask him to but never really volunteers. That makes me feel like it is "my job" and he just kindof helps me out. I have to just remind myself that I am LUCKY to be able to stay home with her and she will be in school soon and I will probaby miss the time we had together. But it's hard. I understand your feelings and your issues with your husband. We all do. It's just a part of the whole deal. We have great husbands, they just aren't perfect... and neither are we.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02585428263018991899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-41102193576018967732008-07-22T06:47:00.000-05:002008-07-22T06:47:00.000-05:00you are so brave! of course every single person wh...you are so brave! of course every single person who is married has issues in thier marriage. we are just too afraid to admit it!!! <BR/><BR/>my husband reads my blog religiously, so i'm afraid to get too personal there. <BR/><BR/>but, just know that yes .... we fight about the same things. someone told me recently that if you DON'T argue with your husband ... there's a problem!<BR/><BR/>take care!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05624817840469373158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-79416460919696341262008-07-22T00:06:00.000-05:002008-07-22T00:06:00.000-05:00I wish I had only thrown a pizza on the floor...ha...I wish I had only thrown a pizza on the floor...ha! I have thrown the top of a beloved teapot from my wedding registry clear across the room (never intended to hit anyone, just to make a point!). <BR/><BR/>I feel ya...my husband has been studying for the patent bar exam for the last 5 months, while going to school for his MBA, on top of working 50 hour weeks. Every single weekend and spare moment has been spent studying. I get to the point where I feel at such a loss with trying to be a supportive spouse and a good mom...but there are moments that I just want to cry and get mad at him for not having to be there when one of the kids misses the toilet, or falls and can't stop crying, and I am the one that feeds them, baths them, puts them to bed, cleans up after them, does the dishes, etc...all on a weekend when we are supposed to be having some family time (I forgot about "me" time a long time ago). But I know that he is just doing what he has to do in order to provide for our family. Soooo...I just rambled on and on, but I understand where you are coming from and I can't imagine doing it all with 3 kids...congrats by the way on your gorgeous new son. Know that you are not alone :-) Be well and feel better.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14010326818334313135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-7513018592772970712008-07-21T21:56:00.000-05:002008-07-21T21:56:00.000-05:00Hey Darby! Thanks for your support and comments on...Hey Darby! Thanks for your support and comments on my blog! I love your blog. You and Justin are so real! Thank you for always being so open and encouraging! When I had my hysterectomy (sp?) 3 years ago, a sweet friend told me to keep a journal during that time in my life- well, let's just say, I can't decide if I should be thankful for it being a reminder of how much I truly need my Savior to satisfy all my needs, or burn it for all the awful things I wrote about Tim! How great it is to have such a forgiving God!!!! I pray you have a very encouraging day tomorrow!!bellamiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16042950965915268157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-1063584383608535262008-07-21T19:57:00.000-05:002008-07-21T19:57:00.000-05:00Darby, I found your blog from Tara's but actually ...Darby, I found your blog from Tara's but actually knew Justin growing up. Anyway, thanks for your blog and the honesty. I am a stay-at-home mom with two kids (6 months and 23 months) and just had the same conversation/fight with my husband yesterday. It is stressful with such young children but we are totally blessed to see each milestone our child makes. We are forming great relationships and nurturing our children. We have very important jobs but don't always get the credit we deserve from our spouses. I do often joke about how I would like to work and let my husband stay at home. He always says I am doing it b/c I am talented enough to do it. I went away with my sister for a shopping trip while I was pregnant with the 2nd one and left him with my son for 36 hours. He really seemed to appreciate all that I do with the kids and a Walmart trip yesterday with him and the kids left him in a tizzy. He has offered to keep the kids in the future so that I don't take both of them with me to the store. He now understands why I dislike taking two kids to the store. I should also explain that he has been working full time and going to school at night plus studying for the last 18 months. On Friday and Saturday, he sat for his big exam and so now he is around. Before that, I truly felt like a single parent b/c he was never home at night before the kids went to bed and never around on Saturdays or after church on Sundays. Thanks for your post and please know that you are not alone. Thanks for sharing what each of us are probably feeling or thinking. I love my husband and he does do his job of providing for his family. Sometimes I wish men just expressed themselves more to let us know how they truly feel about us without having to push to get it out of them.Brandi Barteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07238955172996260672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-47082962980524946612008-07-21T17:33:00.000-05:002008-07-21T17:33:00.000-05:00Hello there! Found your blog, and I love it! Con...Hello there! Found your blog, and I love it! Congratulations on the little one, he, along w/the girls is absolutely adorable. And, I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't have a perfect marriage! Hope you are feeling better, and running around soon enough.MEGANhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16258804163178629201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-17351318773312749802008-07-21T16:20:00.000-05:002008-07-21T16:20:00.000-05:00A fellow blog stalker here. Found your blog throug...A fellow blog stalker here. Found your blog through a friends. Great post! I scimmed most of the comments, and I think I might just be the first guy to comment. I hope all you ladies don't mind. Before I say anything I know you and your husband love one another, and you already know most of what I am about to say. He worked on Saturday because he loves you and your children, and he wants to give you all that he possibly can. I work odd hours and days, and it just tears me up that my wife has to be by herself when she is not working. Providing for and taking care of a family is stressful. There is no doubt in my mind that taking care of 3 little ones is no less stressful. As a man I would rather all the stress be on me than my wife, but we can't always hide it. It's funny how different men and women are. What frustrates one of us doesn't mean squat to the other one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-24919840725583059102008-07-21T16:16:00.000-05:002008-07-21T16:16:00.000-05:00thanks for your honesty darby. i'm still new at th...thanks for your honesty darby. i'm still new at this marriage thing (married since 12/29/2007) but i'm a firm believer that a fair fight with my husband can only brings us closer. hang in there...i've never met you in person, but i would have gladly hit up walmart and browned your meat for you if i lived anywhere close. hope you were able to enjoy some alone time at least shopping at walmart, love that store! hope you are having a better day today!Christi https://www.blogger.com/profile/10119026001651024221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-52713672639702914282008-07-21T16:00:00.000-05:002008-07-21T16:00:00.000-05:00great post!love your honesty--so refreshing!! we h...great post!<BR/><BR/>love your honesty--so refreshing!! we have certainly had plenty of arguments--and oddly enough, most of them are also about time and $$!! stress certainly seems to escalate their frequency!!<BR/><BR/>praying for you guys as you transition into this new chapter in life. i only have 1 little one, and feel the way you do sometimes--know you are not alone!!TMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01622524879949234892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-59063233082883380662008-07-21T15:09:00.000-05:002008-07-21T15:09:00.000-05:00By the way, That's supposed to say: Paige's hair l...By the way, That's supposed to say: Paige's hair looks adorable...not adorbale! :)Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14801779435648304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-23181964976809022782008-07-21T15:08:00.000-05:002008-07-21T15:08:00.000-05:00As I've said before, I really think men/husbands n...As I've said before, I really think men/husbands need A LOT spelled out for them. :) When we assume they already know/understand we're usually very wrong, and that's when the arguments begin. At least that's how it is for me! Even though we both want the same result, it sometimes takes awhile to get there!<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you had fun with the girls and their play-doh. Paige's hair looks adorbale in that bob -- the last picture of her in your post is priceless.<BR/><BR/>Hope your Monday has been good!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14801779435648304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-22282238168528206752008-07-21T13:57:00.001-05:002008-07-21T13:57:00.001-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13683629612430650812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-24078265705778528842008-07-21T13:57:00.000-05:002008-07-21T13:57:00.000-05:00I really appreciated this post. I would blog on my...I really appreciated this post. I would blog on my hubby more than I probably should if his family didn't make up the majority of my readers. (bashful face) :)<BR/><BR/>We actually are at odds as we speak, and I have read Sacred Marriage and obviously know better! Thanks for reminding me that this is just part of marriage. :) And pizza seems like a pretty harmless thing to throw! Let's just say there's been a couple of dishes broken in our house!<BR/><BR/>I hope things get better as you recover from your c-section and adjust to having three little ones. I'm praying for you all!<BR/><BR/>-Katykatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13683629612430650812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-75200528674810026022008-07-21T12:01:00.000-05:002008-07-21T12:01:00.000-05:00Indexed must have seen your blog post (love the ho...Indexed must have seen your blog post (love the honesty by the way):<BR/><BR/>http://indexed.blogspot.com/2008/07/worth-it.htmlmrchrishillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845011945193119926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-18850482229469752892008-07-21T09:54:00.000-05:002008-07-21T09:54:00.000-05:00hey darby -- friend of chris hill so i lurk on you...hey darby -- friend of chris hill so i lurk on you and your sister's fabulous blogs. first, CONGRATULATIONS on your little boy. he is precious (and so are your girls). THANK you for your honest post -- like all of the previous commenters, i completely understand your post and just wanted to say you are an amazing example of a mom and sister and wife (i don't even know you but can just tell)...i wish i DID know you. i am thinking about you today and hope you are more and more pain free QUICKLY!!! blessings to you and your precious family...and thanks for your transparency...striving to do the same as i work on relationships both personal and spiritual...<BR/><BR/>laura matthews<BR/>memphis, tnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-77803507546522290842008-07-21T09:48:00.000-05:002008-07-21T09:48:00.000-05:00Darby, I don't usually point people to my posts in...Darby, I don't usually point people to my posts in comments, but if you get a chance (yeah right, like you might want to do this instead of go to the bathroom, with your spare 20 seconds), read:<BR/><BR/>http://tynerbock.blogspot.com/2008/06/im-back.html<BR/><BR/>tyneTynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535856784660902029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-26361185421196822872008-07-21T09:39:00.000-05:002008-07-21T09:39:00.000-05:00Hi Darby, thanks for the encouragement. I really ...Hi Darby, thanks for the encouragement. I really appreciate the reminder that our spouses probably are doing the very best they can, just as we are. I am so hard on my husband sometimes, and he is really good- I just lace into him about working so much! Wish I had some hydracodone, my back is killin' me. I can't believe how active you are with a newborn and 2 little ones. Sure forces you to be active when you have other kids.Tynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535856784660902029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-73719927339991618672008-07-21T08:52:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:52:00.000-05:00Darby, Thanks for your honesty. Pizza on the floor...Darby, Thanks for your honesty. Pizza on the floor doesn't seem bad. Our silverware racked is ducted taped together (let your imagination run). However I am reading "Scared Marriage" by Gary Thomas (a must read). And the whole point of the book is "what if marriage were to make you holy instead of happy?" It has been a real eye opener. But sometimes when I am all done with my toddler and husband I get a sense of peace that Jesus got angry in the temple! Hang in there!Kendra Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16798585161892095593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-32034842491097305272008-07-21T08:42:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:42:00.000-05:00i feel like those fights are even harder when you'...i feel like those fights are even harder when you're tired [ie: when you have a newborn]...i can remember saying [actually, yelling] "here i am feeding your child with my own body and you're treating my like this!" <BR/><BR/>and i am so impressed that your playdoh is still separated into the different colors - it only takes the boys about 5 minutes before our playdoh becomes a pukey shade of gray!alstonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456739036574583462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-25655544551616343692008-07-21T08:35:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:35:00.000-05:00I think that EVERY married couple has these days a...I think that EVERY married couple has these days and moments.....if they don't they are lying. Our latest tiffs have been over money. I am a stay at home mom of two boys (and a little girl due in 3 weeks). Joe keeps saying, "I make good money....why do I feel like we are living paycheck to paycheck?" What he doesn't see is how much we spend on gas and how outrageous gas has gotten. So I felt like I was forever defending our disposition.....because I know that milk has gotten up to $5 a gallon and we go thru 2 a week. Needless to say, he hit the grocery for me this weekend and came back seeing everything thru new eyes. Thanks for sharing your story.....it made me feel normal!! ~LeslieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-43142634675172489932008-07-21T08:30:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:30:00.000-05:00It's funny that you say this a/b why folks don't b...It's funny that you say this a/b why folks don't blog a/b fighting in the family - I was just talking to Adam the other day a/b how when you ready a 1000 blogs, it's often hard to not compare yourself to everyone else. I said, "does anyone fight? does anyone struggle?" And, he reminded me that I don't always air our dirty laundry either! There are people that likely thing WE have it all together! <BR/><BR/>Well, know that we DON'T, and I pray that we are as transparent as is glorifying to the Lord (i.e. not constantly tearing each other down publicly). Thanks for you honesty, Darby! It's really refreshing!<BR/><BR/>Hope you feel better - in my prayers!Ashley Turnbullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11621160848819871470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-65711327727858042862008-07-21T08:06:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:06:00.000-05:00If I lived nearer I would have gone to Walmart for...If I lived nearer I would have gone to Walmart for you. <BR/>Sorry about the last pain pill too!<BR/>Totally off the subject: where ever did you get that cute fruit tablecloth?erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07890559705160346176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030761737597217504.post-67249034459615045152008-07-21T07:41:00.000-05:002008-07-21T07:41:00.000-05:00I hope you are feeling better today. :) It's a b...I hope you are feeling better today. :) It's a big transition to add another little one to the family. We have certainly been there. I usually say lots of mean things, but Ben refrains. That makes me even more mad, but he reminds me that you can't take back words you say. A lesson I am still in tutoring for.andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12557609279509341021noreply@blogger.com